Pastor Patrick Shaffer from Chicago’s City of Faith Christian Church is featured in the October/November 2008 issue of Being Single Magazine. He’s a bit of an anomaly because he doesn’t preach abstinence only…he says that his congregation includes a lot of single women and that’s just not realistic with the amount of HIV/AIDs issues in the Black community. Finally someone that is acknowleding what’s REALLY going on out here! Regarding relationships, he says that there are four mistakes that most Black women make:
1. We think that getting a man is the answer to all of our problems.
2. We give up too much too soon (from sex…to money…to the key to our heart).
3. We get involved with men that are not equally yoked and try to change them. (I’ve done this numerous times!)
4. We have low self esteem and don’t see our own value, which leads to poor choices and relationship issues.
AMEN. This brother knows what’s up. I think that these are all things we have heard before, but hearing them coming from a pastor (and a young one at that) feels a little different. I’d like to spend a Sunday morning at his church! Check out Pastor Patrick’s blog at www.pastorpatrickonline.wordpress.com. [blacknews.com]